mother in training

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(A personal reflection on mothering and parenthood.)

“Music is not in the notes but in the silence between.”
~Wolfy Mozart

Being a mother is ever changing. It’s not a role to “ACE” or master. Motherhood offers a chance–just like all roles we play in life–to learn, grow and emerge–rinse and repeat.

My pace does not allow much “time” to discover where I might be in a painful tailspin. Having a few days away from regular life last week at the Appalachian State Expressive Arts Institute, I recognized some pain I hold around the energy of holding on to my children, for fear they will break: Dare I recognize they need to break to become fully whole?!

I am so thankful for the wisdom given by many elders who supported my exploration last week–and many young adults too–who shared personal stories of being mothers and daughters. Thanks to their kindness and generous listening I feel rooted and capable to continue to witness (and break open to) my children’s becoming fully human, and I am open to discovering how more gracefully I can let go.

Treasure-trove words given to me that I intend to keep close in my heart:
“You must let go or they will have to break free.”
“They will come back.”
“Don’t take everything so personally.”
“It’s not about YOU!”
“I called my mother last night.”
“I have many homes.” (Said a mother of multiple adult children.)

 

Motherhood is about showing up, caring, giving, giving and giving more than you think you can–things, time, thoughts, hugs, meals, questions, but perhaps most precious of all gifts mothers can give is the gift of space. (Mozart was brilliant, wasn’t he? to say music lies in the silence!)

Motherhood is about finding a way to let go–to let our children shake in their own emergence–their powerful rights and strengths and their choices–so they reveal and discover their own beautiful, individual wings… and fly! (…. and also to flop flail and fall… so they learn to move on and FLY yet again.)

I found and dusted off my motherhood training wingwheels in the mountains. I’ve put them back on.


I offer a relevant poem shared during a small group…

Allow
by Danna Faulds

There is no controlling life.
Try corralling a lightning bolt,
containing a tornado. Dam a
stream and it will create a new
channel. Resist, and the tide
will sweep you off your feet.
Allow, and grace will carry
you to higher ground. The only
safety lies in letting it all in –
the wild and the weak; fear,
fantasies, failures and success.
When loss rips off the doors of
the heart, or sadness veils your
vision with despair, practice
becomes simply bearing the truth.
In the choice to let go of your
known way of being, the whole
world is revealed to your new eyes.


with my love and training wingwheels spinning…
becky

one day (music video)

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Dear Hearts,

On Valentine’s Day 3,000 people of different religious faiths gathered to celebrate coexistence and sing Matisyahu’s prayerful song, One Day. This collaboration and video offers an incredible example of the power of community and song, combined with vision.
We can transcend our differences to cocreate one vision of peace, love and acceptance on Earth.

Starting inside my own heart, One Day can be today.  May it be so. 

All my life I´ve been waiting for
I´ve been praying for
For the people to say
That we don´t wanna fight no more
They´ll be no more wars
And our children will play
One day (one day), One day (one day) 


my love for our joy,
becky suzik

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our gifts (video)

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Hello Dearhearts!

Last year so many people cheered me on and backed my attendance at the Appalachian State Expressive Arts Therapy Institute, in North Carolina. Thank you so very much! Through your kindness and generosity –and my husband’s holding of the fort   — I was given time and space to deepen my own heART practice, to study Joanna Macy’s work Active Hope–among the many other en spirited offerings of the Institute.

Infused by my heARTfull mountain experience I wrote and gave a talk about our super powers. In this 7 minute excerpt I talk about the power of “Our Gifts” . I share this with the prayer that we each remember and discover the powerful gifts we have to live and give!

Because of you, I am.
becky suzik

Thank you to UU Peace Fellowship of Raleigh for the opportunity to share my heART in this talk. And I hold deep gratitude always to my many teachers including Joanna Macy and those attending and creating the Appalachian State Expressive Art Institute. 

Standing O

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Emma with Director Wally Hurst and Musical Director Brian Miller.

 

Hello Dearhearts,

Past few weeks have been a whirlwind whoosh of blessings and challenges. It’s a real life: a miraculously blessed, magical and sometimes painful one. So here I am, pinching myself in front of y’all, to make sure I savor this JOY, sharing one of my greatest memories from the past week and perhaps 2018: My daughter, Emma, finding and making her heART flow in the musical Annie.

I was sitting in the dark surrounded by many beautiful strangers. At the end of the play, Me, I wanted to leap out of my seat for JOY and GRATITUDE for the hardwork and dedication my daughter embodied, but I held back… trying to let humility lead my heart and actions.

Then came my dumbfounding. Such a glorious surprise gift from so many strangers, who–leaping out of their seats applauded my daughter and the entire cast of Annie, for their heartFULL dedication to creation of such a special and touching production.

Like Auggie in film/book Wonder says, every child deserves a standing ovation in their life! Every one goes through often unknowable adversity and challenges. Every human deserves an ovation. So I say, let’s cheer each other on much much more in 2018… let’s support each other through our very real and sometimes painful life of joys, risks, losses, vulnerabilities and challenges.

So here I am cheering on our beautiful daughter, and the wonderful cast of Annie, pinching myself grateful for all the LIGHT illuminating my heart tonight, and for all the memories we shall treasure.

Cheers! Cheers! Cheers! Cheering you all on up and through whatever you are going through and whatever is coming your way. The Sun’ll come out, tomorrow!

i love you. xoxo
becky

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ps here are some photos and audio from an early dress rehearsal.

eclipse prayer

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(Photo captured moments before the total eclipse from Sylva, North Carolina, USA, August 21st, 2017)

💕🦋❤️🌏 Earlier this week, I was blessed to have arrived safely in Sylva NC to witness and pray beneath the total eclipse. If you wished to have been in totality, please know I was there for you, too.

I burned sacred sage in gratitude to our ancestors.
Sage smoke in gratitude for everything we are–humans connected to our one earth.
Burned Sage on my knees praying to all of our Gods –and seeming missing ones–dedicated to all we can do to love each other and heal one another and our beautiful finite planet.
Burned sacred sweetgrass to bring in the new world, the healing powers of love and sacred listening. Burned sweetgrass for our progeny.
Sweetgrass for the strength, courage, patience, creativity and powers we need.

Burned sage and sweetgrass for peace peace peace.
Peace in our 💕s.
Peace in our homes.
Peace in our towns.
Peace in our countries.
Peace on our continents.
Peace on earth as it is in heaven, peace on earth.
Amen. Shalom. Salaam. Namaste. Blessed be. Love. 💕❤️🦋

❤ becky

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